You have no idea how helpful would this list have been if I saw it some 25 years ago….. :) — a really usefull piece for any young man who needs this kind of advice ( and the vast majority does)

One thing stuck with me

“She might also seem a little off her game. Sadly, my game is at its best when I care less. I make bold moves because they’re fun, I say what comes to my mind instead of second guessing it. But when I start developing real feelings, I struggle more. I play it safer.”

That could be a description of me and the many times I played things “too safe” — and always for the same reason. I believe it to be a general human characteristic- the less we truly care- the better our game is. It’s a bit Ironic to see how emotions can get in the way of… well, emotions.